July 2, 2022

Singles and “The Benedict Choice”

If somebody had informed me initially of 2020 what lay forward, I’d have thought they have been paranoid and alarmist. But in simply months, hypothesis grew to become actuality as life modified out of the blue and dramatically. For me, the pandemic and cultural unrest — round all the things from race to the economic system to the election — have been made much more scary by the lack of readability. Nobody is bound what is going on or what we should always do about it.

Scrolling via Fb is like treading via a verbal struggle zone as Christian pals nearly scream at each other for all the things from sporting (or not sporting) masks to supporting (or not supporting) sure political candidates or social justice teams. These anxieties pile on prime of these we already expertise in a tradition that’s accelerating away from the Christian norms that when ruled society. Our second requires a response — however what can we do?

John Stonestreet affords a warning. “As grave as our second is, it’s only a second,” he stated. “We will by no means perceive the story from the second. Now we have to combat to grasp the second from the story.”[1]

Stonestreet was talking on the 2019 Touchstone Convention, prophetically themed “Struggle or Flight? The Benedict & Different Choices for Going through the World, the Flesh & the Satan.” Because it was printed three years in the past, Rod Dreher’s “The Benedict Choice” has continued to spark dialog. Justice Samuel Alito even cited the e-book in his majority opinion for a Supreme Court docket spiritual liberty case in July of this 12 months.[2] Preserving our story in order that we will reply to our moments is what “The Benedict Choice” is all about.

Drawing from the instance of Saint Benedict, the sixth-century monk who based Benedictine monasticism within the face of Roman decadence, Dreher exhorts Christians, “If we need to survive, we’ve got to return to the roots of our religion, each in thought and in observe. […] Briefly, we’re going to must be the church, with out compromise, it doesn’t matter what it prices.”[3]

All through my studying of “The Benedict Choice,” I used to be struck by its specific relevance to singles. As a bunch, we’re most in danger for each the isolation and cultural assimilation Dreher warns about. And but, as Paul stated in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, singleness generally is a present, providing us the chance to be targeted on the issues of God quite than the issues of earth. Just like the monastics, we will use our singleness to uniquely study, stay, and inform our story to the world.

Studying our story

The Christian basic “The Rule of Saint Benedict” was written to control monastic communities. It begins, “Hear rigorously, my son, to the grasp’s directions, and attend to them with the ear of your coronary heart.”[4] Benedictine monks needed to take heed to their spiritual leaders, but additionally to the readings of Scripture and spiritual works. That they had time put aside every day for studying and learning.

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Dreher writes, “Training not solely has to reset our relationship to final actuality, it additionally should reestablish our connection to our historical past.”[5] In different phrases, the aim of this training is rooting us into our story. That is traditionally a part of Christian catechesis, a sturdy program of instructing to floor new converts and believers within the religion. Our grounding begins with realizing Scripture — each the Outdated and New Testaments. It additionally contains studying our Christian historical past. There are great surveys out there (like Justo L. Gonzalez’ The Story of Christianity volumes) or we will learn the writings of Christians from ages previous. I lately found the web group Learn the Fathers, which hyperlinks to on-line texts and supplies a studying plan for historic works. You can too go straight to the Christian Classics Ethereal Library and skim anybody from Thomas Aquinas to John Wesley.

Residing our story

Benedictine monks didn’t simply study their story; they formed their lives round it — once they prayed, what they ate, once they labored, even how they slept (absolutely clothed, “all the time able to come up at once […] to reach on the Work of God”).[6] Whereas our context may be very completely different, a few of these practices can nonetheless assist us construct life rhythms that may direct us to God. In my very own life, I’ve discovered the next significantly useful:

Praying the Every day Workplace.

Monastics like Saint Benedict stopped to wish seven instances a day following the instance of Psalm 119:164. In the present day, this is named the Every day Workplace. It has been tailored through the years by completely different Christian traditions, but it surely nonetheless options set prayers and a cycle of Psalms. Proper now, I take advantage of “The E-book of Widespread Prayer,” 2019 ed.

Observing the Christian calendar.

Christians for the reason that early church days have worshipped on Sunday to commemorate the Resurrection. By the fourth century when the Christian calendar grew to become the official calendar of the Roman empire, annual holy days and seasons had been added, together with Christmas and Easter. The Benedictines lived by this calendar, and recovering its richness has made these celebrations extra significant for me.

Working towards non secular disciplines.

The Benedictines made non secular disciplines a part of their routine. In his “The Spirit of the Disciplines,” Dallas Willard writes, “The key of the straightforward yoke, then, is to study from Christ easy methods to stay our complete lives, easy methods to make investments all our time and our energies of thoughts and physique as he did.”[7] If Christ practiced non secular disciplines — like fasting, solitude, and silence — how far more ought to we?

Telling our story

I’ve benefitted from a few of these traditions alone, however most are supposed to be practiced in group. In 1 Corinthians 12, Paul explains that the Holy Spirit equips every of us as members of Christ’s physique, gifting us “for the widespread good” (verse 7). Our lives usually are not our personal. Dreher writes, “Until you’ve gotten the uncommon calling to be a hermit, obeying God and being true to our divinely given nature imply participating in group life.” (123) Forming robust group in our fragmented world is tough. With the assistance of the Holy Spirit, we will apply some Benedictine knowledge to our personal lives.

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Shared dedication.

When becoming a member of a monastic group, Benedictines took a vow of stability (they might not transfer away until ordered by their abbot).[8] Such dedication appears unimaginable in our tradition the place mobility has been elevated nearly to necessity, and church-hopping is the norm. There are good causes to vary church buildings and relocate, but when we need to develop actual group, we should decide to an area church and make her individuals a precedence.

Shared desk.

Benedictine monks ate collectively; consuming alone was a disciplinary measure.[9] Tales of shared meals fill Scripture, culminating within the Lord’s Supper. God’s selection to speak His love for us via a shared meal isn’t arbitrary; as Christine D. Pohl writes, “A sacred aspect infuses the shared meal of the Eucharist in addition to extraordinary communal meals.”[10] For the reason that pandemic started, my non secular life has been nourished by extra meals round my household desk, and I look ahead to after we can sit round bigger tables once more. A dedication to common meals with fellow Christians — be they each day or month-to-month — is a Benedict Choice step anybody can take.

Shared studying.

Saint Benedict prescribed studying aloud as a group. Studying on this approach strengthens us because the physique of Christ, as our information is formed communally and in dialogue with each other. We will begin or be part of teams devoted to grownup catechesis — books, Bible research, or video/audio instructing. Native social distancing has impressed me to attach with the broader Christian household on-line in teams fashioned round podcasts, Church historical past and Scripture studying — together with a bunch devoted to discussing “The Benedict Choice.” Likewise, Boundless followers can join on Boundless’ social media pages to share experiences round younger maturity, singleness and different generational widespread floor.

Shared life.

Benedictine monks lived collectively in a shared area — one thing that appears radical in a society formed by individualism. But Dreher shares tales about on a regular basis individuals who take steps towards communal dwelling — from church members shifting into the identical neighborhood to singles practising common, strong hospitality.[11] Although typically unavoidable, single-person households are a contemporary innovation; Christian singles traditionally lived with households or intentional communities. After we share bodily area with different believers, it permits us to interact in Benedict Choice practices extra organically. I’ve pals who have been blessed by spending their single years with Christian roommates, and my very own life has been enriched by the selection to stay with household.[12]

After we stay into these practices, we inform our story to at least one one other, and we inform it to ourselves as a group of religion. As we’re strengthened as a physique, we’re extra capable of share Christ with the world. Saint Benedict taught, “All company who current themselves are to be welcomed as Christ, for he himself will say: ‘I used to be a stranger and also you welcomed me.’”[13] The monks had an in depth plan for hospitality that included not solely a shared desk however shared prayer and Scripture studying. In different phrases, the Benedictines informed our story to all who would hear. Christ calls us to do the identical.

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Our second in historical past

As I’ve tried to make sense of life this 12 months, I’ve discovered myself leaning into Benedict Choice ideas. The U.S. Christian witness has been divided over cultural points for a while, and 2020 has solely supplied extra alternative for confusion. In his personal discuss on the 2019 Touchstone convention, Dreher picked up Stonestreet’s theme:

It’s extra pressing now for the church to inform itself its personal story and its youngsters its personal story than it’s to inform the skin world concerning the gospel.[14] It’s not both/or; it’s each/and. However we’ve got to reprioritize studying our personal story and dwelling our personal story out as a result of the information of it has turn out to be dangerously skinny.[15]

This urgency is all of the extra related in at this time’s 2020 cultural second. Within the midst of a lot uncertainty, I’ve discovered readability by returning to our story. As we within the church study and stay our story, we inform it to one another and we bear in mind who we’re. After which, even in moments like this one, we’ve got hope to supply to an unsure world, as a result of we already know the way the story ends.

Copyright 2020 Candice Gage. All rights reserved.


[1] John Stonestreet, “Bene-Kuyper: A Modest Proposal,” Touchstone, filmed October 11, 2019 at The 2019 Touchstone Convention, Deerfield, IL, video, 15.58, https://www.touchstonemag.com/conferences/bene-kuyper-john-stonestreet.php.

[2] Rod Dreher, “Massive SCOTUS Win For Non secular Liberty,” The American Conservative, accessed July 13, 2020, https://www.theamericanconservative.com/dreher/big-scotus-win-for-religious-liberty/.

[3] Rod Dreher, The Benedict Choice: A Technique for Christians in a Publish-Christian Nation (New York: Sentinel, 2017), 3.

[4] Saint Benedict, The Rule of Saint Benedict in English, ed. Timothy Fry, O.S.B. (Collegeville, MN: Liturgical Press, 1981), 15.

[5] Rod Dreher, The Benedict Choice, 152.

[6] Saint Benedict, The Rule, 49.

[7] Dallas Willard, The Spirit of the Disciplines: Understanding How God Modifications Lives (New York: HarperCollins, 1988), 9.

[8] Saint Benedict, The Rule, 79.

[9] Ibid., 50.

[10] Christine D. Pohl, Making Room (Grand Rapids, MI: Eardmans, 1999), 30.

[11] See Leah Libresco Sargeant, Constructing the Benedict Choice: A Information to Gathering Two or Three Collectively in His Identify (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2018).

[12] See C.R. Wiley, The Family and the Warfare for the Cosmos: Recovering a Christian Imaginative and prescient for the Household (Moscow, ID: Cannon Press, 2019).

[13] Saint Benedict, The Rule, 73.

[14] Robert Louis Wilken, “The Church as Tradition,” First Issues, April 2004, https://www.firstthings.com/article/2004/04/the-church-as-culture.

[15] Rod Dreher, “St. Benedict: The Father of Us All,” Touchstone, filmed October 12, 2019 at The 2019 Touchstone Convention, Deerfield, IL, video, 34:55, https://www.touchstonemag.com/conferences/st-benedict-rod-dreher.php.