Typically after I run into buddies and get requested how I’m doing, one in every of my go-to responses is “I’m livin’ the dream!”
Yeah, I’m that man. It’s one in every of my many charming and not-at-all annoying qualities.
After I say these phrases, I normally do it with a slight smirk and a metaphorical wink (not an precise wink as a result of these are creepy). Typically I would even raise my palms a bit to attract consideration to my environment as if to say, “Go searching! I’m clearly precisely the place I wish to be, and all the things is ideal, proper?”
I’m attempting to be humorous and ironic after I say these phrases, however the actual irony is I type of imply them.
Dwelling my dream
In plenty of methods, I’m dwelling my dream. All through highschool and faculty, I imagined the life I needed to reside.
I needed to get married and have a household. I needed a job the place I used to be capable of train my skills and work for a corporation dedicated to creating a distinction. I needed to have time to jot down, and in my free time, I needed to freelance to herald some extra cash for Marvel motion pictures and Apple merchandise.
I’m at present doing all of these issues.
I’ll be the primary to confess my actuality is much from excellent, and my day-to-day life isn’t precisely the glamorous one I used to be anticipating. Nonetheless, as tongue-in-cheek because it sounds to say I’m dwelling my dream, I really am.
Right here’s the issue: Typically our goals don’t reside as much as our expectations. Or because the previous saying goes, “Watch out what you would like for, since you simply may get it.”
I ought to have recognized. That’s the plot of nearly each film from the ‘90s. The previously geeky woman with glasses doesn’t perceive the perils of recognition till her dramatic makeover, and Aladdin has no enterprise being an actual prince. You didn’t earn these elephant parades, Aladdin.
These days, I’ve realized my dream isn’t actually potential. I’m doing the entire issues I needed to do, however I’m drained — actually, actually drained. It’s laborious to juggle a number of jobs and nonetheless have a significant household life at house. Who knew?
Oh wait! That’s one other plot from ‘90s motion pictures!
With the intention to maintain my dream alive, I really feel a continuing stress to squeeze essentially the most out of each minute. And after I cease to consider it, I notice that’s not the type of life I wish to reside. That’s the a part of my dream I forgot to determine. It’s not very enjoyable to reside with that stage of stress, and it takes away from my most vital roles in life.
I don’t wish to push apart my time with God to make room for just a few extra emails. I by no means need my spouse to really feel uncared for due to my work. I wish to cherish each minute I’ve with my daughter. I don’t wish to be so distracted by new venture requests that I miss out on the components of life that matter a lot greater than an article byline or an additional paycheck.
Let it go
It’s bizarre to jot down about this expertise after I’m nonetheless in the course of it, and the issues aren’t resolved. However right here’s the lesson I’m at present studying:
Typically it’s a must to let your previous goals die to make room for higher ones. Or as Craig Groeschel usually says, “We quit issues we love for issues we love much more.”
It’s OK for our goals to alter. Typically it’s a must to make laborious choices to pursue the nice issues God has for you. And generally it’s a must to say no to make room for a greater sure.
God guarantees issues will work out for the nice of those that love Him (Romans 8:28). Typically God’s model of excellent appears to be like totally different from what we initially imagined, however His good is at all times higher than ours. I bought a style of my dream solely to comprehend the nice time with household I used to be lacking was proper in entrance of me the entire time.
I’m deliberately crossing just a few issues off my dream to-do checklist today — and perhaps it’s best to too. Bear in mind, God promised to offer us relaxation once we come to Him. His yoke is straightforward and his burden is gentle. If you end up continuously working on steam to pursue your dream, it may not be the one God has for you.
Typically life in a dreamy palace is overrated (simply ask Aladdin). It’s OK to let previous goals die to make room for the higher plans God has for you. He is aware of what you want, and He’s promised issues will work out for good. And that is a dream value pursuing.
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